21. Name one thing you feel brings out the good in people.

Decided to do this in the order that I felt like.  Maybe I'll get more done that way.

Every single person I meet has good qualities and bad qualities, and to be frank, the bad qualities generally far outweigh the good.  I'm a super judgemental person.  It's one of my very worst qualities.  I will fixate on the bad in you, blow it way out of proportion, and drown you in your badness, which is probably something you're already insecure about.  I'm working on it.
This is not an original idea, but an idea I believe bears repeating.  People don't get better because you tell them what's wrong with them.  People get better when you tell them what's right with them.  When my mom tells me I'm an awesome momma, I honestly disagree.  There are so many things I know I could do better.  But she makes me want to be a better momma.  She does this both by inspiring me with her example, and by encouraging me.  I want my mom to be able to praise my mothering skills honestly.  My brother's and I were raised under her constant encouragement, continually told we were smart, we were competent, we were going to do great things with our lives.  And despite a few obstacles on the way, one thing I can say about each of my siblings is that we are overcomers, and we are achievers.  We are not satisfied with reaching the status quo.  Each of us has an inner desire to be the best we can be, because one of the fundamental values that was ingrained in us from an early age was that we had the ability to be great.
This works in the opposite way, too.  Ask a room full of inmates how many of them were told by their authority figures, the people they were supposed to look up to, that they were going to end up in jail one day.  I bet you 90 percent of them will raise their hands.  
I'd like to end by sharing an important principle that I learned in a program I was in.  "You believe whatever you tell yourself."  In my opinion, this is the best way to gain self esteem.  Take the good in you, something that you don't see, but everyone else does, and tell yourself over and over again, this is true.  Say it out loud.  Recognize your achievements.  Reward yourself.  Praise yourself.  Self-confidence is the single character trait in today's world that will truly be useful no matter what path you take in life.  It is the first step to happiness.

Positive Vibes.